Abuse – in the workplace and at home

If you are worried about a friend, a colleague, a family member or yourself it can be hard to know what to do with regards to abuse. We look at the information and advice available, how to spot the signs and what you can do to keep safe. #YouAreNotAlone

Different types of abuse

There are so many different types of abuse and acknowledging that they are abuse is often one of the first stages to getting help:

  • Bullying and cyberbullying
  • Sexual exploitatation
  • Domestic abuse
  • Emotional abuse & Gaslighting. Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where a person or group makes someone question their sanity, perception of reality, or memories.
  • Female genital mutilation (FGM) – It’s illegal in the UK and is child abuse. Click here for further details from the NHS website.
  • Grooming
  • Neglect
  • Non-recent abuse
  • Online abuse
  • Physical abuse
  • Racial abuse
  • Financial abuse
  • Sexual abuse

#Notallmenbutallwomen

Virtually all young women in the UK have been subjected to sexual harassment, according to a survey from UN Women UK, which warns that most women have lost faith that the abuse will be dealt with. Click to read a recent report.

Recognizing abuse

It is not always easy to recognise the signs of abuse. If you alter your behaviour because you are frightened of how your partner, friend, colleague, family member or someone in authority will react you are being abused. The following are just some of the behaviours linked to abuse:

Signs of abusive behaviour

  • Excessively jealous and possessive
  • Sudden changes of mood, from extremely nice to aggresive and angry
  • Stopping you from seeing your family and friends; do you feel isolated?
  • Constant criticizism and/ or putting you down in public
  • Embarrassing you, often in front of other, so that you are seen in a bad light
  • Playing mind games and making you unsure of your own judgment
  • Controlling your money
  • Telling you what to wear, who to see, where to go, what to think
  • Pressuring you to have sex when you don’t want to
  • Monitoring your movements? Or check up on you via your email, Facebook, Twitter or by looking at your text messages
  • Using anger and intimidation to frighten you and make you comply with their demands
  • Threatening or intimidating behaviour, using violent language or smashing up the furniture
  • Are you blamed for their behaviour e.g. they say you were “asking for it” or deserved the abuse?

Women, men and children

Abuse is not discriminatory. It can happen to anyone, regardless of gender, gender identity, age, race or physical size. It affects people of different abilities, and happens across every class background. If you are experiencing abuse or have been subjected to patterns of bullying or controlling behaviours, whether in a domestic, intimate or family relationship, or a workplace situation it’s abuse – and there are organizations that you can talk to and can help.

Pharmacies launch codeword scheme to offer ‘lifeline’ to domestic abuse victims – Action Needed Immediately

ASK FOR ANI

From 14th January 2021, victims of domestic abuse will be able to access much needed support from thousands of pharmacies across the UK, backed by the government.

Resources available

You are not alone. If you have concerns, either for yourself or others, please take a look at some of the following organizations:

Refuge

For women and children against domestic violence.

Respect

A men’s advice line, Call 0808 8010327, Email info@mensadviceline.org.uk.

NSPCC

The UK’s leading children’s charity.

GALOP

The National LGBT+ anti violence charity. Galop’s Domestic Abuse Helpline is 0800 999 5428.

Wellbeing and pastoral care

Please reach out to Mercuri, either through your Learning & Development Coach, or directly to the Safeguarding team by email or phone. The wellbeing of our learners is paramount and the safeguarding and wellness pastoral team can offer guidance and support.

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